Let’s just sit with this for a second: parenting has never been easy, but doing it while being bombarded by thousands of conflicting opinions every single day might be one of the most mentally exhausting things modern mothers face.
OBGYN here. I have witnessed thousands of births, and had 3 myself, and 5000 screaming women aren't just making it up. NONE of them were having an orgasm. My advice? Go epidural early.
Honestly, anybody who tells you there's only one right way to parent needs to be blocked forever from your personal universe.
They're scam artists trying to get their hands on your money or they're just sick people who get their kicks off feeling superior to other women.
They are, at best, so mentally rigid that they're probably overdue for a CPS investigation into their parenting practices for potential neglect or outright abuse.
Women like that can fuck right off into an erupting volcano. Particularly if they've got "social influencer" as part of their alleged credentials. They're quite literally exploiting their own children, forever denying them privacy to satisfy their own need to get attention or be seen as a model parent of some sort.
There's a special place in hell for women who exploit and monetize every facet of their own child's developmental years to fuel their own need for attention.
If they're not currently licensed medical professionals in YOUR state, they're committing fraud.
If they're telling you that that they know best and using medical credentials to grant them authority to make pronouncements when you're not a patient, they're committing malpractice.
Either way, they shouldn't be given any credence or credibility as authorities.
Women need to stop upholding paternalistic, authoritarian systems, learn to do their own critical thinking, learn how to recognize bullshit and bullshitters, and stop twisting themselves into knots seeking validation from said bullshit artists posing as "the one true successful mother."
This is so true! I finally deleted my instagram account last year and have never felt better. Yes I miss seeing some news from real friends but I do not miss all the garbage coming from the algorithm.
Thank you, Lynzy, for sharing these beautiful thoughts. They are a much needed reminder. “Let your nervous system have a break from the pressure to improve, fix, optimize, or elevate.” 100%.
(As a side note, my biggest regret postpartum with my 2nd child was not COMPLETELY unplugging from social media during that sacred time. We are so tender and so vulnerable during that period. After heavily weighing the decision, I had chosen to have a repeat cesarean, but after my daughter was born, social media fed me so much home birth/natural birth content that it actually sent me into a spiral, causing me to deeply question my carefully made choice. Looking back, all of this could have been avoided by staying the fuck away from social media!)
I have always appreciated your down-to-earth, common sense approach that is woven with empathy and kindness. Thanks for all you do here.
Thanks for sharing your experience Courtney! I truly do think that social media is one of the most toxic things for mothers today (especially in that crucial period postpartum). I wish more people would talk about it!
Wish I’d read this before my first baby was born 7 years ago…by my third I was far more confident and had banished social media. I just want to give all first time moms a hug and tell them they are doing great!! ♥️
OBGYN here. I have witnessed thousands of births, and had 3 myself, and 5000 screaming women aren't just making it up. NONE of them were having an orgasm. My advice? Go epidural early.
100%
Honestly, anybody who tells you there's only one right way to parent needs to be blocked forever from your personal universe.
They're scam artists trying to get their hands on your money or they're just sick people who get their kicks off feeling superior to other women.
They are, at best, so mentally rigid that they're probably overdue for a CPS investigation into their parenting practices for potential neglect or outright abuse.
Women like that can fuck right off into an erupting volcano. Particularly if they've got "social influencer" as part of their alleged credentials. They're quite literally exploiting their own children, forever denying them privacy to satisfy their own need to get attention or be seen as a model parent of some sort.
There's a special place in hell for women who exploit and monetize every facet of their own child's developmental years to fuel their own need for attention.
If they're not currently licensed medical professionals in YOUR state, they're committing fraud.
If they're telling you that that they know best and using medical credentials to grant them authority to make pronouncements when you're not a patient, they're committing malpractice.
Either way, they shouldn't be given any credence or credibility as authorities.
Women need to stop upholding paternalistic, authoritarian systems, learn to do their own critical thinking, learn how to recognize bullshit and bullshitters, and stop twisting themselves into knots seeking validation from said bullshit artists posing as "the one true successful mother."
AMEN to all of this.
"Laugh, and log off." On point!
This is so true! I finally deleted my instagram account last year and have never felt better. Yes I miss seeing some news from real friends but I do not miss all the garbage coming from the algorithm.
Thank you, Lynzy, for sharing these beautiful thoughts. They are a much needed reminder. “Let your nervous system have a break from the pressure to improve, fix, optimize, or elevate.” 100%.
(As a side note, my biggest regret postpartum with my 2nd child was not COMPLETELY unplugging from social media during that sacred time. We are so tender and so vulnerable during that period. After heavily weighing the decision, I had chosen to have a repeat cesarean, but after my daughter was born, social media fed me so much home birth/natural birth content that it actually sent me into a spiral, causing me to deeply question my carefully made choice. Looking back, all of this could have been avoided by staying the fuck away from social media!)
I have always appreciated your down-to-earth, common sense approach that is woven with empathy and kindness. Thanks for all you do here.
Thanks for sharing your experience Courtney! I truly do think that social media is one of the most toxic things for mothers today (especially in that crucial period postpartum). I wish more people would talk about it!
Wish I’d read this before my first baby was born 7 years ago…by my third I was far more confident and had banished social media. I just want to give all first time moms a hug and tell them they are doing great!! ♥️
So wise.